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When Your Child Wonders, “Am I a Mistake?” Gentle words for adoptive parents navigating deep questions
Has your child ever asked something so deep, so unexpected, it made your heart skip a beat? In our adoption journey, one quiet question...
Sherrie Eldridge
6 days ago
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Hope for Adoptees Who Hate Themselves
If you love an adoptee or fostered person who is hurting and you are brave enough to ask if they hate anything about themselves, they may...
Sherrie Eldridge
Mar 28
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The Lady in the Black Hat
When I saw this photo a few years ago, it drew me in. The combination of elements in the photo are open for interpretation. Perhaps the...
Sherrie Eldridge
Mar 11
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The Special Needs of Adopted Children
Adopted children have special needs that adoptive, first, and foster parents must learn in order to become their child’s #1 cheerleader....
Sherrie Eldridge
Mar 11
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The Hot Potato of Adoptee Anger
“Adopted and foster kids have every right to be angry. We are wounded beyond belief. We’ve judged by media and places of worship,...
Sherrie Eldridge
Mar 11
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What Feeds Adoptee Loss and Grief
<p>What are we to do with this, friends? Can we educate ourselves about these topics and be willing to lunge forward into forgiveness? It would be scary, like standing on the high dive platform before deciding to jump in. But, oh, if we do, we will be washed clean from bitterness and healed from loss and grief. </p>
Sherrie Eldridge
Jul 30, 2022
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Sandcastles In Adoptee Hearts
<p>How I identify with the message of the framed print above my bedroom table named: “My Sandcastle.” It pictures blue skies, a sandy beach, and a four-year-old girl straddling a two- foot-tall sandcastle. Busy at work, she slaps handful upon handful of wet sand upon her creation, oblivious to the seagulls flying overhead or the […]</p>
Sherrie Eldridge
Jul 3, 2022
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What Shakes Adoptive Mamas To the Core
<p>Just like the band’s drum major twirls a silver stick with two rubber ends, adoptive mamas must do much the same–always marching, moving forward, and directing. The two ends of her baton are adoptee self-worth and suicide, which in my adoptee mind, are untouchables. Mamas are ultra aware of this tension..in fact, hyper-vigilant. They hear about rising adoptee suicides and can’t imagine such pain coming upon their teen, or their family. Secretly, they may
Sherrie Eldridge
Jun 1, 2022
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50 Adoptive Mamas Have Marine-Like Hearts!
<p>It takes something special to develop a Marine-like heart in the world of adoption. A person with a Marine-like heart has completed the hard work of getting free from his painful past or condemning self. Because he has nearly experienced death in this process, he has compassion for those that are hurting. The US Marines […]</p>
Sherrie Eldridge
May 20, 2022
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Understanding One Adoptee's Passion
<p>A fellow adoptee friend told me that many adoptees and foster kids have a ! (exclamation mark) following their name. At first, I didn’t know what she meant, but as she elaborated the meaning, Anne of Green Gables came to mind. If you’ve watched this fascinating series, you would likely agree that Anne has a certain zest for life. Everything she says and does almost paints a picture with words. For those that have seen the movie, recall how Anne would burst into
Sherrie Eldridge
Apr 11, 2022
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Dancing With Your Adopted Child
<p>And as a child, I would step on her toes really, really hard. I mean, I loved to step on her toes. It gave me a lot of pleasure. I know that’s really, really sad, but when you understand the reason why that was occurring, then you won’t blame me, or shame me. But, that is a dynamic that happens to a lot of adoptive parents, foster parents and their kids.</p>
Sherrie Eldridge
Jan 10, 2022
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Adopted Kids May Identify with Buddy At Christmastime
<p>Dear all kinds of parents, fellow adoptees and foster kids… Every year, I watch the Christmas movie called ELF, mostly because my beliefs about Christmas, myself, and others in my story–adoptive mother and dad, ring familiar. We can use the movie as a springboard for discussing the challenges of Christmas that many adopted and foster […]</p>
Sherrie Eldridge
Dec 1, 2021
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My Journey Into the World of Adoption by Karen Springs
<p> My journey into the world of adoption began exactly 17 years ago with a visit to an orphanage, a world away from my middle-class American life. It was early November 2004 and I’d arrived in Kyiv, Ukraine, six weeks earlier for what was intended to be an eight-month postcollege ministry adventure. I was twenty-three years […]</p>
Sherrie Eldridge
Nov 17, 2021
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One Word Adoptive Parents Must Avoid
<p>Whenever I teach this point during a training, many parents get upset. I wonder why. Are they offended that they’re saying the wrong word? Are they embarrassed, like someone caught with their pants down? Or, are they ticked off because they supposedly know better than anyone what the child needs…and how the child feels?” Really? Is it about the correctness of the word or how he feels and reacts when singled out?</p>
Sherrie Eldridge
Sep 7, 2021
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My Take On Adoption Reform
<p>Unfortunately, the subject of escalating stress between prospective and new moms isn’t discussed by the majority of adoption agencies, child protective services, or adoption professionals. Some agencies are required by State law to provide this type of education and preparation, but for others, it’s too scary to broach the topic. What adoption professional is brave enough to tell prospective parents that their child may reject not only their love, but them? Isn’t this acti
Sherrie Eldridge
Aug 18, 2021
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Good News for the World of Adoption Via Podcast
<p>My new podcast-20 THINGS ADOPTION-announces good news for the world of adoption! Adoptive moms and traumatized adoptees can now find freedom–adoptees from their painful past and adoptive moms from their painful self (you know, the self that reminds you you’ll never have what it takes to meet the needs of your adopted child). As an adult adoptee in her seventh decades of life, I experienced this freedom nearly three years ago. You see…I was painted into a
Sherrie Eldridge
Aug 3, 2021
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A Birth Grandfather's Goodbye Letter
<p>My son and his beautiful girlfriend conceived you out of marriage. As parents we loved the two of them and hoped they might marry, but at ages sixteen and eighteen it seemed unwise. Our children wanted to make the foolish, but understandable choice to abort their unplanned pregnancy without telling us. When they revealed their secret, we parents assisted them for a time, even to the point of taking your birthmother to a nearby town for a procedure. We couldn’t follow throu
Sherrie Eldridge
Jul 29, 2021
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What Scared My Adoptive Parents
<p>Who can even imagine how Retha felt? Perhaps, like a bucket of ice water was thrown on her? She probably shook in shock, like anyone when something unfathomable happened. Where was Mike? Was he holding her close? Knowing him for a lifetime, he was probably running for the back bedroom. And, there Retha was. All alone. No one to help her, no one who had the presence of mind to hold her close, even my grandmother.</p>
Sherrie Eldridge
Jul 8, 2021
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Cheat Sheet for Talking Adoption
<p>What comes to mind when you think about initiating a conversation with your child about his birth family? Do you feel defensive, like the birth family is the enemy to be avoided at all costs? Do you feel sad, and does your lip begin to quiver at the thought of their possible presence in your child’s life? Do you fear your child will love them more than he loves you? If so, this section is especially for you. Kids are experts at reading body language. You can’t
Sherrie Eldridge
Jun 14, 2021
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Adoptees Suffer Phantom Pain
<p>Adoptive and foster parents, would you consider the possibility of phantom pain in regard to your adopted child’s relinquishment wound? A great example of an amputee with phantom pain is Amy Purdy, the Olympian whose legs were amputated from the knees down. The location of pain for an amputee is the body, brain, and spirit. […]</p>
Sherrie Eldridge
Jun 2, 2021
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